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I am deleting
my Facebook account,
but I am not unfriending you.

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Let’s make sure our contact information is up-to-date.

I value our friendship and would like to keep in touch with you. I am not adding you to any sort of mailing list—just updating my contact card for you. I will send you my contact card in return.

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Mastodon isn’t just a better version of Twitter, it’s a federation—think Star Trek. Thousands of independent communities running Mastodon form a coherent network, where while every planet is different, being part of one is being part of the whole.




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For true success, ask yourself these four questions:
Why? Why not?
Why not me? Why not now?
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Terry Gross

Why not just unfriend/mute people on Facebook?

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Facebook is optimized to spread hate. While not an intentional design, it is irreparable because the people who work at Facebook deny or refuse to understand the problem and therefore cannot fix it. The appropriate response to something systemically harmful is to stop participating in the harm.

By using Facebook myself, I give you a reason to keep using Facebook. I want you to have one less reason to use Facebook. I hope your other friends also leave Facebook until you no longer go to Facebook because there is nothing there to see.

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Ira Glass

Why do you think Facebook is harmful to society?

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The quick answer:

  1. Facebook, Google, and Verizon Media Group are in a race to collect as much data about you as possible. They believe the company that knows the most about you can show you the most relevant ads.
  2. Companies that earn money from showing you ads, like Facebook, must create reasons for you to see the ads. Facebook’s primary goals are to keep you coming back and spending more time than you intended. Facebook creates a fear of missing out to keep you coming back. Facebook prioritizes content that is likely to illicit an emotional response from you so that you spend time commenting and returning to view replies. Once Facebook knows what triggers you, Facebook amplifies similar content.
  3. Facebook’s design has been optimized in every way to keep you in a reactionary state. Because you become desensitized after repeated exposure to the same type of content, the content gradually drifts to more extreme positions.
  4. Facebook’s content moderation policy is to permit as much as possible, as determined by laws and advertisers’ tastes. Polarizing content evokes the most reactions and the most re-shares. Facebook defends not moderating harmful content because it is the most profitable content.

Wealthy-Facebook-investor-turned-wealthier-critic Roger McNamee wrote the best answer to this question in his book Zucked: Waking Up to the Facebook Catastrophe.

Hundreds of businesses suspended advertising on Facebook in July 2020 as part of the Stop Hate For Profit protest, but it takes two—advertisers and us using Facebook—in order for Facebook to make money.

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Sylvia Poggioli

Do you think I should delete my Facebook account too?

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Yes. Here’s a step-by-step guide.

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Steve Inskeep

Are you deleting your WhatsApp (by Facebook) too?

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I’m not on WhatsApp.

I use and recommend Signal, the non-profit that created WhatsApp’s end-to-end encryption protocol.

Did you know Mark Zuckerberg broke a contractural promise to WhatApp’s founder, so the founder quit and gave $50 million to Signal? WhatsApp Cofounder Brian Acton Gives The Inside Story On #DeleteFacebook And Why He Left $850 Million Behind

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Renée Montagne

Are you deleting your Instagram (by Facebook) too?

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Not yet, but probably, eventually. Instagram uses the same Facebook infrastructure behind-the-scenes. Instagram has the same problematic business model of surveillance capitalism. However, Instagram is less harmful to my mental health. Instagram allows people to follow me without having to follow them back, so I rarely encounter hateful perspectives.

More importantly, Instagram is designed around creating original content yourself—not re-sharing. Re-sharing is what turned Facebook into a hateful meme machine. Sadly, Instagram has increased the number of ways people can re-share others’ content easily.

In her new book, The Age of Surveillance Capitalism, Harvard Business School’s Shoshana Zuboff argues Google and Facebook collect so much personal data for profit, that they’re changing the fundamentals of our economy and way of life. And now these companies are learning to shape our behavior to better serve their business goals. Shoshana joins Manoush Zomorodi to explain what this all means for us.

We then explore whether or not it’s time to end our relationship with corporate spies. OG advice columnist Dear Abby gives us some tips to start with. We chat with philosopher S. Matthew Liao. He asks if we have a moral duty to quit Facebook. And journalist Nithin Coca tells us what it was like for him to quit both Facebook and Google. Spoiler alert: it wasn’t easy, but he has no regrets.

IRL: The Surveillance Economy


IRL Podcast: The Surveillance Economy

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